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Living together: Craze orcrazy? Blessing or cursing?

Join the new sexual revolution

Spotlight on sexual integrity

The road to freedom from pornography

"Join the new sexual revolution"

Teens speak out!

I learned about sex from the street. Believe me, that's not a good place to learn it!

Talk to me early and often, and tell me what I need to know!

Would you be shocked at my private world? My sex drive can be so intense and I fantasize about it more than you know!

Don't think I can handle everything, just because I am a Christian!

I cannot talk to my parents about sex!

The problem
Our youth are in trouble, serious trouble as far as their sexuality is concerned. Our teenagers are experiencing their sexuality as a crisis! They are confused! They are finding themselves amidst sexual chaos! There are no clear boundaries to guide their sexual behavior! The line between what is right or wrong is non- existing or has become very vague. Daily we see and hear of young persons with HIV and AIDS, teenage pregnancies, sexual abuse, rape, involvement in pornography, alcohol and drugs, increase in prostitution! Bruner (1999:153) states the following: The sexual revolution has removed the protective guidelines of sexual expression, confusing love with passion, gratification with fulfillment. The result is a generation trapped in a bland, colorless world, seeking to satisfy a yearning that can only be filled through the wonders of human sexuality.

The mere fact that our children are growing up in the 20th century places them at much greater risk (morally, spiritually, emotionally and physically) than we were when we were growing up.

Our young children are facing a sexuality crisis. Children are being sexually abused, pre-school children involved in all kinds of sexual activity ‘ playing inappropriate games and performing sexual acts on each others'. “Child abuse cases rocket nationwide” ( Star 13 March 2004 ).

We are facing a teenage sexuality crisis. Children having sex at very early ages, children having children, children losing their lives to AIDS, children resorting to prostitution, children experiencing heartache because of shattered relationships. The list goes on.

We are facing a young adult sexuality crisis. Cohabitation is the ‘in' thing. Young adults choose to live together instead of getting married. They are led to believe that if they do not have sex, there is something wrong with them, or they are missing out on one of the world's greatest delights. They are told that it is best to test sexual compatibility with your prospective partner or experiment with different partners before marriage. Newspapers report tertiary institutions' involvement in rape scandals, uprisings among students demanding opposite sex visit-rights in hostels, sex puppet shows where students are forced to watch their seniors having sex . “Students on campuses around South Africa are having sex and lots of it ” is the headline of one article. Young adults' dreams are shattered by emotional and physical pain caused by distortion, misuse and abuse of sexuality and failed relationships.

We are facing a sexuality crisis in marriage. Sexual dysfunction is rampant in marriage with help-lines being inundated with calls for help. Marriage partners compare themselves with, and are expected to perform against the media's standard which portrays multiple orgasms, prolonged periods of non-stop sex, sex three times a day, as being the norm. Women have to contend with their husband's addiction to pornography. The feministic movement with its attack on masculinity has left men feeling confused and inferior. On the other hand, men have to be muscular and have a six pack and drive an expensive car to be regarded as a real man. Women are always on some or other slimming programme in an effort to measure up to the ‘perfect' and slim bodies portrayed by the media. Our children are greatly influenced by the media. They are being fed lies, lies, lies through television, movies, books, friends, internet, TV games. And we are mostly silent!!

We as parents expect high achievements from our children (scholastically, sport, extra-curricular). Society acclaims status to those who are materially wealthy, own a big house, drive an expensive car, and wear fancy clothes. These things are projected to be the ultimate in life. Sadly, those aspects that really matter in life, those things that are not tangible like responsibility, commitment, loyalty, faithfulness, caring, respect etc. in relationships, those values that should form the foundation of relationships and lead to fulfillment, harmony, contentment and quality of life are not emphasized.

Yes, our children are in trouble, they are confused! They are very confused! They are experiencing their sexuality as a crisis! Our society is experiencing sexual chaos!

Are we listening? Are we taking note?

OUR CHILDREN ARE EXPERIENCING THEIR SEXUALITY AS A CRISIS. OUR SOCIETY IS IN SEXUAL CHAOS!

The answer

Return to the ancient paths
If it is true that we are experiencing sexual chaos what is the answer? The answer is that we need to return to the ancient paths. We need to return to God's ways. Sexuality as God's special gift to man should be re-discovered. Do you know how to guide your children out of this chaos? JEREMIAH 6:16 Thus says the Lord, Stand by the ways and see and ask for the ancient paths, where the good way is, and walk in it; and you shall find rest for your souls.

Tell children the truth
Parents need to tell their children the truth. The truth will expose the lie that the media, friends and the enemy has been feeding them . John 8:32 You shall know the truth and the truth will set you free. It is a matter of urgency that we as parents stand up and counteract the lie with the truth. What is the truth? The truth is what God's says about our Sexuality. In it is indicated in His Word. The truth is that Sexuality is a very special and sacred gift from God to us, meant for a very special time, to be shared with a very special person - our partner in marriage. Do you know how to explain this truth to your children?

Talk to your children
God makes it clear in no uncertain terms that we need to talk and educate our children. That includes talking about their Sexuality. We need to take our responsibility of the Sexuality Education of our children very seriously? Are you equipped to carry out this responsibility? DEUTERONOMY 6: 6-7;|”And these words which I am commanding you this day shall be (first) in your own minds and hearts (then) you shall whet and sharpen them so as to make them penetrate, and teach and impress them diligently upon the (minds and) hearts of your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down and rise up.”(Ampl) Hosea 4:6 “My people are destroyed because of a lack of knowledge”

Teach your children God's standard
The enemy is flooding us and our children with lies, trying to destroy us and our future. Enough is enough. We will lift up a standard, God's standard. Do you know how to lift up God's standard? ISAIAH 59: 19(b) When the enemy shall come in like a flood, the Spirit of the Lord will lift up a standard against him and put him to flight (for He will come like a rushing stream which the breath of the Lord drives)(Ampl)

Build sexual character
God wants to build character in us. He wants to burn His image into us. All of us want to raise children to be people of character. In the same way we should build sexual character in our children. Sexual character will assist and guide our children to acknowledge and appreciate their Sexuality and the Sexuality of others. Are you equipped to build Sexual character in your children?

Become radical
Yes, it's true we do not wish to return to the silent, guilt and shameful era of the past, but we are dissatisfied with the present state of affairs - the worldly sexual revolution. We as Christian parents need to rise up and start a new sexual revolution. We advocate and ask you to join the new sexual revolution. The RADS revolution: The ra dically d ifferent sexual revolution where God's special gift to man is appreciated, honored, cherished, respected and enjoyed. The time is now, your time is now. Get up and let's do something. The RADS are MAD. Ra dically d ifferent parents m aking a d ifference for the next generation.

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